December 27, 2007

Being in Bond

To be loved is a great virtue and even when someone is losing his/her life,the feeling that you are really loved and cared and is what you had really wanted in your life and that makes you smile even at the dying moments.Every time when I come up with such termed down philosophies,what I really feel happy is the experiences that I get in my life as time passes on which really tells me these philosophies are still worth a look.Recently I had to attend a funeral function of my relative who had demised after a long harassment by a fierce disease.Now the term demise is normally associated with a royal death,but I associate that word with this death not because the person belonged to a royal family,but she was rich by love and she had got the love and care from her family that anyone would love to have.

Its quite evident to all that god doesnt give everyone everything,but still those imperfections are the way that establishes human relations and bonds.But now the wide acceptance of belief that money can get you everything has created the misery of disregarding relationships and emotions.Being in bond is more a bondage now rather than being a bliss.I was talking about my relative who had died of a serious but curable disease.Her family belonged to middle class,infact lower middle class and so out of worry that her husband and family couldnt afford the cost of treatment,she didnt care the initial signs of the disease and finally when it was detected,it was a bit too late.Even after spending in a large sum of money ,her life couldnt be saved.Every penny spent for her treatment had a story of hard work and pain to say.But still she couldnt be saved.But what really fascinated me infact surprised me was the commitment that the whole family had shown to save her.It was the love and care that she was given and the prays that werent answered positively and finally some true cries and woes when she had passed away that would really wet any eyes even if you happened to be a stranger.

This is something I really hasnt found in the recent past in this society.Mostly people has a cancerous thought for making more and more money and relations and emotions are just not there.The "fellow feeling" that is the soul of a relationship is never there.Every relationship is made for money and profits and too much professionalism has creeped into our personal lives that we never bother about our relations.I dont say you have to be too passionate but atleast have a heart for people around you because you are not born to make dollars,but to make yourself and others happier with your existence.As an ad goes "There are somethings that money cant buy,for everything else there is ....";the problem is now we have too many things money can buy and for other things,well who wants those.People measure others with the width of their pockets.You are thrown off if you dont have money or power.If you are a child,well none cares,if you are a teenager you wont have any girl friends(you can manage without any),if you are middle aged,you struggle the whole day for a living and if you are old ,you are thrown in to the streets,these is the normal protocol associated with being poor.

But there are moments where money fails,there are moments where your swiping credit cards cannot wipe it off.You can buy lust,but not love and care.You can have diplomatic relationships,but never true at heart.There will many around who says 'I will be there with you always in all troubles and problems' and when you are really in one,mind you those who told you that would never be there for you.Be with the successful and wealthiest and stamp off the downtrodden,this happens to be a formula the whole world follows now,.I am almost completely sure that many of you might not have reached even at this point reading the post,probably after two or three lines ,you would close this off and say crap.Yes this is a crap when you live your life as a king,when you have people around you and when you have everything you want.But in everyone's life however rich you are,life puts you in an introspection period where you think (you are made to) about what you have achieved in your life other than money.If you end up with Nil well then this whole idea no longer remains crap and that very moment,you sob for what you have done and life makes you pay for it.But the problem is it will be too late to rectify and you end up sobbing.So better start having a bit of feeling for your mate,let him/her be your friend rather than your mate.Love those who care for you and care those who needs it from you.This is not something that I am preaching you but this is something that life is teaching me every moment and I feel is worth sharing.Atlast let me rephrase that ad,"There are somethings that money can buy,for everything else you need love and passion".

7 comments:

Shantharam Shenoy K said...

da am really touched by this.....

Anonymous said...

heart touching man........
"But there are moments where money fails,there are moments where your swiping credit cards cannot wipe it off.You can buy lust,but not love and care."..has got inner meaning....hopes reader get to knw it
Aslam v 2.007

NiKi said...

"......I am almost completely sure that many of you might not have reached even at this point reading the post,probably after two or three lines ,you would close this off and say crap.Yes this is a crap........"

A said...

You are right man. There is no unconditional love these days.

But for you to get this philosophical and emotional, there must be some hidden reason.

Hope your next post is about that. :-)

Unknown said...

@ aravind

hmm experience da
like i have never seen so touching scene as i saw there

Anonymous said...

well.... 2 b honest i havnt read d post, i came straight 2 comments. So cant comment. Sorry, ;)

Unknown said...

@ hisam betr u cud hav left uncommented